Fundamentally I believe this to be true:
We are supposed to enjoy life and to do useful things. While we are still here, we are supposed to have a good time, and also we are supposed to accomplish something. When we are neither doing something that is useful or that is fun then we are wasting our time.
The Stones of Life
The Stone of Life represents the ultimate stabiliser in managing your unhelpful emotions, thoughts and behaviours. It is the foundation stone for a happy, successful and fulfilling life. The Stones of Life below help me to “enjoy life", “do useful things" and to be true to my values, in one way or another. The first seven points are the most important (to me anyhow):
- As an adult I can deal with any situation.
- Life isn’t all that fair.
- Everything that happens comes and goes.
- Disappointments are tough but keep them in perspective.
- Happiness can be found in lots of ways.
- It’s the way you deal with events, not the events themselves, that gives peace of mind.
- Every day is precious.
- Life’s too short to drink bad coffee.
- Being with someone who loves you for who you are is better than being alone or being with someone out of obligation.
- Fitness means being able to play more.
- Being out doors makes me happy.
- Spend less time awfulizing – situations never turn out to be as bad as I think.
- It’s okay to say I don’t know or to ask for help.
- Don’t over analyse situations.
- Don’t try to be good at everything.
- Ticking stuff off list makes me feel good.
- Outer order contributes to inner calm.
- You manage what you measure.
- Being in debt is like being in prison; it traps you (see point means to an end).
- What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE. In other words, try, make mistakes and persist!
- You are in control: if you think you’re happy, you generally are.
- Life with music is better than life without.
- A lot of what we do is a means to an end, but it’s important to do stuff which is an end in itself.
- Everyone is human so try to see the good in people and help them: adopt the golden rule.
- Money can’t buy you happiness, but it can buy you experiences which are generally better than material goods.
- Life is short. This is it. Enjoy the ride as this isn’t a dress rehearsal: On a long enough time line, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero – Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club: A Novel
- It’s important to say yes more often, unless it means more work that you don’t enjoy.
- Forgive and let go.
- Without action nothing will happen.
- Take care of this moment.
- Learn constantly.
- If you are unhappy it’s your choice.
- Practice negative visualisation.
- Accept what you can’t change.
- It’s easier to keep up than to catch up.
- The biggest waste of time is to do well something that we need not do at all.
- To keep going, we sometimes need to allow ourselves to stop.
- Progress, not perfection (perfect is the enemy of the good).
- The more we accept ourselves, and what’s right for us, the more other people accept us.
What are your Stones of Life?